How much time do you have?
I'll give you a big hint; you have a clue how much time you have left, no one does.
Time it's your most valuable asset. Yet, you think of a time in terms of absolute or infinite, like you have an endless supply.
I'll get to that tomorrow or next week. I'm in no hurry to do that, and I can always do it later.
You stay in a job that you are not satisfied with or no longer challenges you. I know I did this for a few years myself, and damn did I waste a lot of time.
You stay in an unhappy and unproductive relationship because you don't want to hurt the other person, or it's just easier, so you keep putting off making a change you know is right for you.
Yeah, you might have tomorrow, and yet you might not.
So ask yourself why you are not making the changes you say you desire, so you can live the life you want?
The sad part is it usually takes something tragic in your life to happen before you will stop and realize how precious your time is.
It could be the loss of a spouse, loved one, friend, or even someone so famous and polarizing that you never met that impacted you in some way.
You tell yourself from now on, I'm going to do what's best for me and not push things off any longer.
I will find that new job that I love and challenges me. I'm going to get out of this relationship and find a healthy one where are both are happy.
Then as time passes, maybe a few weeks or months, you go right back to living your life thinking you have all the time you need.
You start pushing off making those changes you told yourself you would make and know they would bring you happiness and peace to the life that you desire.
You fall back into the same trap as before, thinking you have all the time in the world. I'll get to that tomorrow, next week, or next month.
Then before you know it, this thing called life happens; when suddenly, three or four years have gone by in a blink of an eye.
You're standing there wondering what happened.
Why didn't I change my job I still don't like or end my unhealthy relationship?
You tend to fall back into familiar life patterns, and you think it's easier to keep life status quo than it is to make the difficult choices.
I'm here to tell you that is wrong, one hundred percent wrong, yet so many people are stuck in this pattern.
By not making the challenging choices now, you are causing yourself more pain and agony by trying to keep your life in order.
Think about what I'm saying.
Do I need to remind you that you're not happy at your job, your relationship or whatever you have put off changing in your life?
NO! You already know!
You also know how much energy, time, and effort you are putting in pretending that everything is ok for now. Yet, you keep telling yourself. I'll make that decision later.
Why do think that you cannot make that change? I'll tell you.
The problem is later becomes never because you lack the self-awareness and clarity to make that decision.
The only way things change for you is if your company, partner or whoever else makes the decision for you, and then you take the role of the victim.
How could they do that to me? It's all their fault.
The truth is, you knew you were not happy and did nothing about it. And to make matters worse, think about the energy and effort you wasted when you should have been using it to make the change you know you needed to make.
The time (pun intended) is now to go after what you want, get out of that job you don't like, or the unhealthy relationship that's not serving you or whatever you need to change.
The time is now for you to make the changes you've been putting off. It's time you become a difference-maker in your life.
As I always say it's ZUP2U (zup-2-u) to be the difference in your life.
Becoming more self-aware like anything else in your life will take time, practice, dedication and a willingness to want to change.
I invite you to try these tips to help you gain clarity and become more self-aware.
- First, find a quiet place with no distractions. Take some deep breaths to relax and clear your mind.
- Second, identify (write them on a piece of paper) the things in your life that truly matter to you and that you are passionate about, then write what you want and need out of each one of those. This includes your career, love life, friendship, hobbies, etc. Remember, this is your life; only you can make the change to be the difference. For example: I want a job the challenges me, I want to feel valued and appreciated for my work.
- Third, focus on one statement at a time and ask yourself, is your current life in that area aligned with your statement? If not, ask yourself why and what you need to do to bring that in alignment.
- Fourth, set a realistic goal for yourself to get that area of your life in alignment with where you said you wanted to be. The next step is critical, be fair but firm with yourself. Write the goal down or put it in your phone, and then set periodic reminders to check in with yourself to track progress.
- Fifth, repeat one through four for each statement you made about your life.
- Six, take all your statements and start with the one you feel have the most meaningful impact in the shortest time frame.
- Seven, hold yourself accountable for the change you said you needed and wanted for a happier and healthier life.
Like anything else in your life, the only way change of any kind can happen is you have to do the work. You took the time to read this post, so that should tell you something about your desire to change.
There's nothing more important in this world than your happiness, and you are the only person who knows what happiness is to you.
Time to get work and be the difference in your life
As always, thank you for your time.